1. Go to the bar, pick a man/woman you like the look of, approach them and say.
My name is (your name), I understand this might be weird but if you give me 10 minutes of your time, I’ll by you any drink you like, then if you would rather I leave you alone I will, so please let me tell you something I’ve been dying to share with someone but I am too shy to tell my friends. I am normally shy but you look like a decent person.
They will either tell you to go away but they might be intrigued enough to listen.
2. You tell them something, something personal, something silly or a dream of yours. For example.
When I was 6 years old my mother took me to a junior Gymkhana, I was nervous but I was extremely confident I would win, during the control component I slipped and fell from my pony. I got up and finished but I knew I’d lost. Heartbroken at my stupidity and clumsiness I grew angry at my equipment, my saddle I reasoned was too slippery and thats why I fell. When I had finished my mother came and collected me, I was very angry and she told me I was being a brat and a poor loser.
I started to wave my arms about and screech that it wasn’t my fault it was the saddle and she should buy me a new one that very day. My mother told me that I was already spoilt and that I should think about the poor starving children in poor countries rather than myself all the time. I was furious and whacked my sides with my hands, I had forgotten I was holding my riding crop and the force I’d whacked my leg left a bruise for weeks, I started to squeal.
This made my mother laugh uncontrollably at my little hissy fit and the payback I’d given myself.
Filled with rage and hurt that she laughed at my pain I saw a clod of dirt and decided to throw it at her. I rushed over and as soon as I picked it up I realised it was soft and mushy, it was horse poo. I stated to scream in horror and cry and this only made my mother laugh harder. I wiped my hand on the grass furiously and ran screaming to the car.
I’ve never told anyone about that.
Here’s my number, thank you for your time, I’d really love to have a coffee with you of you don’t have time to talk now.
3. As you finish the story jot your number on a coaster.
It worked for me, it’ll work for you.
P.s. The horse thing is a true story.
Notes.If you are a woman, you’ll not have much problems getting at least a shag, if thats what you want, but also you shouldn’t have any problems anyway. If you are after a relationship, thats why you give him the number and get him to all you. Otherwise, you know what to do.
Men, if you are after a shag, this should get you ha;f way there, women like interesting, and we are not as picky about looks. Two more of these sorts of things and she will be fascinated. If you are after a relationship, then ask for another meeting, I’d recommend something that you don’t need to do too much talking, until the ice breaks, theatre? Movie, that sort of thing.People like stories, jokes and earnestly, these things will endear you, try talking about something other than small talk, small talk is boring. Ask a lot of questions about them, that works the best.