I was distressed to discover recently that a friend of mine has moved from live web shows to porn, that might sound like the pot calling the kettle black coming from a whore but there has always been a tribal disdain between prostitutes and porn ‘stars’. People not in the sex trade tend to laugh at this, but for us its a matter of principle.
The arguments go something like this, the porn queens see it as a measure of sustainability, an act they do to support themselves, desperation, its a career certainly, but they tend to use the excuse that they are porn stars and at least they are not whores. They see whores as a cheap profession, and possibly in other countries it is. The average a whore will make in the vicinity of 300-600 per hour an attractive, well spoken woman will be more 800-1500 per hour. A porn star will make between 1,000 to 3,000 depending again on how attractive she is and what she is prepared to do for the camera. A porn queen will do on average, 2-3 ‘jobs’ a month, a whore will do between 2-6 clients a day, 4-6 days a week, for a whore it is a far more lucrative profession, they are the ones with the fancy cars and wardrobe.
Most whores see girls who do porn as white trash, laughable isn’t it? We do the same thing but one is private (most of the time) and the other on camera for everyone to see. The thing that we, whores, think separates us is that we practice safe sex and have certain work place safeties, we see porn as a betrayal of this, and also that porn is an instigator of the more violent and vile side of sexuality, it feeds unhealthy fetish and yet many of us practice and service that part of the market.
My friend and I had a long and sometimes difficult series of conversations over it, that at times ran hot and hostile, but, one thing I have learned from my not so fairy tale younger days is this, I’m no saint, I have seen people do and be far worse than whores and porn stars, to sell yourself is to learn a vast humility in many things, perhaps this made me a better person, after the illusions of my youth where torn from me I had to re-asses people in entirely differing ways. Most of my friends have been what society looks down their nose and most of my clients have been ‘decent men’ as they appear to you. I said to her, in closing that I’ll till love her, even though I disagree with her choice, to me its all commerce, she hasn’t joined a far right political party, she isn’t judging people on a set of arcane rules that damn people for what they do not what they are, she is doing what all creatures on this earth do, survive as best they can.
Morality is born of comfort, not struggle, your moral struggles with your lusts and wants are laughable when put to actual survival, people should remember that, judging is to take your ideals and try to apply them to someone who isn’t you.
Oddly a friend of mine alerted me that a mutual friend had taken the same path, he was distraught that she would do this, all I could offer is your life is your struggle, it’s often as difficult to make your own way, all things being relative, fix your own problems, others will do as they do regardless, as it should be. Our morals are personal guides, the moment we preach them to others we become oppressive, who am I, who are you so say that our way is the better one, I don’t believe in a greater power much less that I am one.